Yes, it is possible to experience someone else’s headache. I once had a headache come on suddenly, but it turned out not to be mine. This happened years ago and involved someone I knew well.

I remember seeing him getting dropped off at my place for our scheduled visit. After seeing him come up the stairs to my second-floor apartment, I immediately walked over to the door, opened it, and waited. Now, I had no headache before then, but as soon as he walked past me into my apartment, my head immediately started to ache. I closed the door, and we both sat down on the sofa to have a catch-up conversation.

Within a minute or so, I stopped, put my hand up to my head, and said, “I’m sorry, but I have a banger of a headache.” He then said, “Oh, that’s mine. I just had angry words with the person who dropped me off.”

“WHAT?” I replied. Yet with his words of explanation, my headache left. Swoosh! Gone! In an instant!

I didn’t know that was possible–to feel someone else’s headache and of course believe it was mine. But it happened. And that headache has never come back.

Ever since that day, whenever I experience any unusual discomfort or even pain, I always ask myself this question: “Is it mine?”

Sometimes if you’ve been out in a crowd or talking with someone, you might pick up a feeling of angst, anger, pain, hopelessness, despair, or another emotion and immediately believe it’s yours.

It might not be.

So, always ask, “Is this reaction mine?” And be open to all possibilities.

You’ll find similar insights in my books in the Abuse & Energy™ Series. Ask for all three books at your local library or your favorite bookstore as well as on Amazon or on my website (click on Purchase). The titles are:

Abuse & Energy
Deep Energy
Peace & Energy


Mariane Weigley
Through this blog, Mariane Weigley, JD, shines a Flashlight on how one’s Soul reacts to trauma and can begin to heal. A lawyer and author of three books on emotional abuse, Mariane welcomes your comments about your own experiences of abuse.