Did something like this ever happen to you? If you answered YES, you may have experienced emotional abuse, as I did.
Emotional abuse is an abnormal use of energy meant to inflict pain to gain control or submission over another. In fact, abuse of any kind IS emotional abuse. And emotional abuse feels like a hammer to the Soul.
I’ve been told many people have experienced “cement legs”—where they literally can’t move signaling something is wrong and making a physical statement of “No, I won’t go.”
A move back to the place where I grew up at age 35 started my recovery toward restoring myself. Attending law school at age 40 was part of this. So was leaving a 25-year marriage at age 47. Ending a nearly lifelong allergy to chocolate at age 52 was part of this recovery, too.
These events were all related because I was coming out of something I didn’t even know I was in. I had reacted to emotional abuse in many ways. I was indeed coming back.
If you have felt emotionally hammered, understand that people important to you caused you to react. Do not hate them for it. Instead, consider that someone had likely wielded “hammers” on them early in life. In fact, how you responded to that emotional abuse probably saved your life.
Emotional abuse results from someone abusing their power. It attacks your Soul’s need for safety, and it reduces your ability to feel. If you’ve ever experienced it, how did you react to it? How did it feel? If you had “legs of cement,” what did you do next?
By asking yourself these questions, you’re on your way to discovering your true authentic self. That discovery will make a meaningful difference for you—and for the world. Who knows all the good you can do when you are all here and present!
Learn more about one woman’s path for healing after abuse, trauma, and dissociation in Peace & Energy, Book 3 of the Abuse and Energy™ Series. In particular, read Chapter 7 about reactions to emotional abuse: Call It By Its Name—Survival Mode.