What self-talk might be helpful to get you happily through the upcoming holidays?

Let me offer three of my favorite positive mindsets for enjoying life more, especially when things get hectic.

1. I have learned it pays to “Go with the Flow, Stay in Today, and Stay in the Moment.” Pick one of these three to focus on and Trust yourself that it will work. This will bring all your Energy into the moment. Why is that important? Going back into the past or ahead into the future reduces the amount of Energy you have available to manage a situation you’re experiencing right now. So, by saying these phrases, you are commanding your Energy to be “all here.” Repeat them over and over if necessary. When you do, fear should subside and calm prevail. After all, you know more than you think you do.

2. Many of us have a history of being “too nice.” And that comes into play especially during the holidays. Being “too nice” only serves other people; it actually throws you under the bus. To avoid too much niceness, talk less than usual, don’t attend functions you don’t want to, and be yourself at all times. Your Soul will thank you!

3. Set positive intentions for yourself. I find end-result intentions work well, so borrow a few of mine this holiday season. And feel free to change them and make them your own.

Intention #1: By December 31st, I will look back on one of the nicest holidays I’ve had in a long time.

Intention #2: I kept my gift-giving to a minimum yet meaningful level.

Intention #3: My time at holiday gatherings was fun and insightful, making me feel glad I attended them.

Intention #4: I was able to deal with toxic people and situations. I “kept my cool” and that made me feel proud of myself.

Intention #5: I came through all the holiday eating enjoying every meal yet not gaining weight.

Intention #6: Even though my loved ones have left, I can feel the Energy of their presence. I am reminded of them by a favorite ornament, a yummy recipe, a certain way of helping, and many remembrances that brought on a good feeling inside that made me smile.

Remember to create precious moments of solitude for yourself. That is when your Soul can recharge the best!

Peace and Energy to you this holiday season,

For more on setting intentions, see Chapter 10: The Value of Setting Intentions in Peace & Energy, Book 3 of the Abuse & Energy™ Series.


Mariane Weigley
Through this blog, Mariane Weigley, JD, shines a Flashlight on how one’s Soul reacts to trauma and can begin to heal. A lawyer and author of three books on emotional abuse, Mariane welcomes your comments about your own experiences of abuse.